I recently got an invitation through my email to join a site called "lookville". This is from the website:
"LookVille is a social fashion network made up of people from all around the world answering one simple question: How do I look?
In LookVille, you can search for fashion inspirations or take photos of your (or other people's) looks. The live feedback you get from our members will help you pick out cute outfits and try new styles.
When you are done, help others pick out their outfits and trade fashion tips or style advices with people on the other side of the globe."
I thought to myself.. "hmm, this looks interesting". It appealed to the nosey person in me too, as I like looking at both plus size and straight size style. The majority of it being straight size on this site, which didn't bother me at all.
I (thought) it would be a great place to ask other people how to style different outfits and get fresh ideas.
So, off i went and posted a photo of myself from this post .. A post that had a lot of positive feedback and I felt pretty good about.
I asked the simple question "How else could I style this dress up?" with the info underneath reading: "I love this dress but have only worn it once! I need other ways to dress it up (or down)"
I was looking for examples, maybe different colours to wear with the dress, shoes etc.. NOT the following comments that were written:
"to be completely honest, I'm not a big fan of the dress. doesn't fit you the best. it's a tad loose on the top"
"I don't like the dress on you it looks dated and the belted look is not good"
And the one that annoyed me the most...
"I would put a plain black suit over it. Too much going on for someone your size and shape"
How on earth are any of these responses relating to my original question?! I didn't ask if people liked it or not, as to be totally honest, I will wear what I like, not what other people like or want me to wear, and finally, what on earth is the last one?! It's a floral dress. How is that too much going on?! I'm not wearing hugely gaudy jewellery, it's not bright (and anyway if it was, I'd still wear it!) and "I should wear a black suit over the top" again, how on earth is that answering my question?!
I am not looking for any "Oh, the dress looks wonderful etc", this is not the point of the post. I guess the point of my post is: A) why did these people answer, if it has nothing to do with what i originally asked and wanted to get opinions on, and B) Why are people so negative?! I just don't understand it myself.
So, for these reasons, I won't be using Lookville again. Has anyone else had an invite and does anyone else regularly use it?
19 comments:
My sister was invited to this, and I had a weird feeling about it in the first place. Don't let these comments get to you! There are too many negative people in the world, so let this roll of your shoulders and continue to be positive. I don't know why people can be so rude and insensitive.....
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I was invited to this and signed up but I haven't posted anything. Not too sure if I want to now, if I ask a question I want real answers
Don't take it to heart :) xx
I love trying new communities but this sounds awful! I think anyone who puts comments like that are selfish, rude and probably insecure of themselves. I hope their comments didn't upset you but made you stronger, you are better than them.
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People are just mean to be mean on these sites. Just because they are insecure doesn't mean they have to take that on us. Whatever. You looked gorgeous in that Evans dress.
what a shame that they can't give you constructive feedback to help with your original question. Thank you for the heads up!
Put a plain black suit over it? KILL IT WITH FIRE and by it, I mean the moronic person who said that. Besides being completely rude and unnecessary, I'm imagining a black pant suit paired with that dress and hot mess alert. Don't mix size hatred with bad fashion advice!
I love that dress on you too and I say wear it with whatever the hell you want!
...except a black suit. Just no.
Sadly some people feel the need to criticize others so harshly over the internet. Some people get more brave & bitchy hiding behind their computer...Screw them!
Hi, I just found your blog and you are so right about lookville! I got invited, posted one picture and just got negative feedback. I thought it was probably that the one outfit wasn't that good so I posted another five and I noticed the comments were getting less constructive and more along the lines of 'urgh you look bad you are ugly'. Never been on it since...
People are just plain rude, which is one of my personal dislikes!
If people don't post the answer to the question you are asking, and just saying "you're ugly, you look bad" etc.. That is not being helpful.
Hi, I've just started to use Lookville and liked it at first. But you are right! some people really are bitches! I think I was the only one who tried to leave constructive comments! Don't let them get to you, you're beautiful no matter what your shape, size or style is.
omg! it is so sad that a site that probably started with good intentions has members like this that spoil everything and tarnish the name of the site :(
I just got an e-mail about it today! i thought it was stupid for them to send me an e-mail as it said "nice blog- i was impressed by its content blah blah blah go to lookville and sign up" my blog is about my art - not my fashion designs. They aren't even on my blog! I think the site just takes people who are on blogspot and invites them at random in order to gain popularity. either way it's too late - i signed up before google-ing it like the moron that i am but you know i've gotten worse comments on some fashion choices i had up on a different website - someone have the odasity to tell me "wow. this looks like shit" no input. just the opinion. Some people are just out looking for a fight. they are useless scumbags and you should not let their stupidity get to you.
-with appreciation on your information about the site, blackroseblade.
Dear hurt Lookville members.
You know, that since a week or so Lookville has changed the option to delete such bad comments. That also punishes those mean persons as the points they have accumulated to get subtracted! Great tool. So stay with it and let's band together to let Good win from Evil!
MariettesBacktoBasics on Lookville
Thanks Mariette, I think this is a good idea.
Katkins, Thank you so much for your review of Lookville. I just rec'd an invite a few weeks ago and wondered what it was all about. I decided to google it first and see....and your wonderful blog came up and I was very impressed not with just the Lookville comments but the blog overall.
Thanks again
Lisa
Like BlackRoseBlade, I got an email about it today and was flattered.. dumb. So I signed up to see what it was like before googling it, thinking that I could just delete it if I didn't like it. Now I don't like it but I can't find out how to delete my account!! Does anyone know where I go to delete it?
I also received an invite through my email. So I joined. I design and create fashion jewelry. So I thought this would be a good place to get some feedback on my creations. But I too received some snotty comments. Yes a few of them were sort of nice. I think that maybe some of these women post pic's who are not even of themselves, and maybe they do not feel good about themselves so they have to be rude to other people to make themselves feel better. There is one particular French woman, can't remember her name, but she never posts anything positive. She always posts rude comments to everyone. But I have read a few nice comments from a few nice people on there. I feel like if you don't have anything nice to comment, then just don't comment. Why be rude to people? I would feel bad if I knew I hurt someone's feelings. But obviously some people like to hurt others feelings. Hope your next experience is better.
Hi guys I am swedish regular member on lookville and visit and post my looks there often. I dress quite different and I get my inspiration from the japanese fashionworld. I use lookville because I like to see how well others can relate to my style aswell as see how others simply react to different types of expressions. I surely agree that some people on lookville are rude but on the other hand I feel that the point of the site is to express opionions, How can that work if opionions that are different from you own are not respected. But this statement comes from someone who is use to people not "getting" it. Just have to say dont hesitate to join, Not all members on lookville are bitches! Take Care/Linnea
I just found your blog by Googling "delete lookville account". I joined after receiving the same email back in May, but I've never posted anything. I went on and looked around this morning but I have no interest in participating - there is no way to delete my profile, though! I'm sorry to hear of your experience with rude people. Isn't the point of a personal style community to appreciate personal style?
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